Inner Voice Reset™
A science-informed way to change the way you speak to yourself, and shape the voice your child grows up with.
When parenting feels harder than it should
Many parents start searching for support when they notice things like:
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“I’m snapping more than I want to.”
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“I can’t calm myself down once I’m triggered.”
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“My child is so hard on themselves, and I don’t know how to help.”
Sometimes the search starts with your child.
Sometimes it starts with you.
What many parents don’t realise at first is this...
A child’s self-talk is formed early, and it’s shaped through relationship.
Long before children can reason logically, their nervous system is learning how emotions are handled, how mistakes are met, and how stress sounds on the inside.
That internal voice often begins with the adults closest to them.
What is the Inner Voice Reset™?
The Inner Voice Reset™ is science-based support for parents who want to:
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calm their nervous system so they can respond rather than react
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change harsh or urgent self-talk patterns
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model emotional regulation for their child
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support their child’s resilience without pressure or perfection
This is not about “positive thinking” or “fixing behaviour”.
It’s about understanding how internal language affects the nervous system, emotional regulation, and the way children learn to relate to themselves.
Parents access this support at different depths, depending on what they need right now – from short-term relief to deeper, longer-term change.
Why self-talk matters for parents and children
Self-talk isn’t just thoughts.
It’s a signal to the nervous system.
The way we speak to ourselves influences:
nervous system state → emotional response → behaviour → modelling
When internal language is rushed, critical, or fearful, the body stays in stress states like fight, flight, or freeze.
When internal language becomes steadier and more supportive:
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the nervous system settles more easily
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emotional regulation improves
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recovery from stress happens faster
Children are attuned to our nervous system as parent.
Children don’t learn regulation by being told what to do.
They learn it by experiencing how emotions are handled in relationship.
When parents change the way they speak to themselves and create capacity in their own nervous system, children experience:
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more emotional safety
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calmer co-regulation
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fewer escalations and quicker repair
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a healthier internal voice as they grow
This work supports:
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emotional regulation
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nervous system flexibility
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long-term mental wellbeing
How this support helps your child (without working directly on them)
The Inner Voice Reset™ works through you, not on your child.
Depending on the level of support you choose, this work can help you:
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notice the tone beneath your words
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calm your body before responding
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recognise what your child’s behaviour may be communicating internally
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interrupt unhelpful self-talk patterns early
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model language that supports effort, safety, and self-trust
You’re not being asked to parent perfectly.
You’re learning how to become a steadier emotional reference point.
How the Inner Voice Reset™ is offered
The Inner Voice Reset™ is offered through 1:1 parent support, online or in person.
Support adapts to:
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your capacity
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your season of life
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what you’re navigating right now
Some parents come looking for immediate relief and clarity.
Others are ready for deeper, integrated change that holds under pressure.
There’s no need to decide upfront.
The right level of support is explored during enquiry.
Is this the right support for me?
The Inner Voice Reset™ is well suited to parents who:
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feel emotionally stretched or reactive
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replay parenting moments afterwards
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notice they’re harsher on themselves than they are with their child
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want to break patterns they grew up with
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care deeply about emotional wellbeing
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want science-informed, preventative support that fits real life
There’s no single “right” starting point.
About the approach
The Inner Voice Reset™ sits within Sapling Minds’ proactive wellbeing framework, developed by Aliesha Embleton – child development specialist, transition coach, award-winning author, and speaker.
This work draws on:
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neuroscience
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emotional regulation research
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nervous system education
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vagus nerve toning principles
The focus is prevention, not crisis response – supporting parents early so children grow up with stronger emotional foundations.
At its core, this service reflects one simple truth...
The way you speak to yourself shapes the inner world your child grows into.